207 | Self(ish) Motherhood: Raising Daughters Beyond the Good Girl Script with Paige Christiansen

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In this episode of Wild & Waking, I’m joined by Paige Christiansen, Co-Founder and CEO of Self(ish), behavioral strategist, entrepreneur, and Human Design expert, for a conversation about raising daughters beyond the good girl script. So many women are actively unraveling people-pleasing, perfectionism, over-functioning, and the belief that being loved requires being agreeable, helpful, easy, or endlessly accommodating. But when we become mothers, an entirely new question emerges: how do we teach our daughters to be kind, thoughtful, and connected without accidentally teaching them to abandon themselves?

Paige introduces the “villain edit”, the fear women carry of being perceived as selfish, cold, difficult, dramatic, or too much, and explains how that fear begins shaping our identities from an early age. We explore how women become a threat to themselves when they are constantly editing, suppressing, or overcorrecting who they are in order to remain likable. Paige offers a powerful reframe of selfishness as self-possession: centering yourself in your own life, trusting your internal authority, and allowing other people to have their own reactions without making their comfort your responsibility.

Together, we talk about what it means to model self-possession, boundaries, emotional honesty, and personal power for our daughters. Paige shares how she uses Human Design to understand her children as whole individuals rather than extensions of herself, support their unique emotional and energetic needs, and guide them through sibling conflict, communication, decision-making, and self-trust. We also explore how to teach empathy without emotional over-responsibility, why children need space to experience discomfort, and how mothers can stop parenting through the lens of perfection, performance, and fear of being judged.

Paige also shares what is currently alive inside Self(ish) Media, the self-education company she is building at the intersection of Human Design, relationships, self-concept, cultural psychology, editorial storytelling, and modern womanhood. Her work asks us to look at the stories we consume, the relationships we participate in, and the identities we perform as opportunities to understand ourselves more deeply. This conversation is an invitation to stop trying to become the “good” woman or the perfect mother—and instead become a woman who is rooted in herself, willing to receive support, and brave enough to model full self-possession for the daughters watching her.

Meet Paige:

Paige Christiansen is the Co-Founder and CEO of Self(ish), a self-education media company exploring self-possession, relationships, Human Design, and modern womanhood. A behavioral strategist, entrepreneur, wife, mother, actress, singer, and cabaret performer, Paige helps women break free from good girl conditioning, trust themselves more deeply, and create relationships rooted in authenticity. Her work blends behavioral psychology, identity frameworks, and cultural insight to help women become fully themselves.

In this episode, Self(ish) Motherhood: Raising Daughters Beyond the Good Girl Script with Paige Christiansen, we cover:

How good girl conditioning begins in childhood and shapes women’s identity, relationships, motherhood, and self-worth
The difference between raising kind, thoughtful daughters and conditioning girls to people-please, over-function, or self-abandon
Paige’s concept of the “villain edit” and why women fear being seen as selfish, difficult, cold, dramatic, or too much
How fear of judgment and rejection disconnects women from their voice, intuition, boundaries, and personal power
Reclaiming selfishness as self-possession, self-respect, and the ability to center yourself in your own life
Why mothers must model self-trust, emotional honesty, boundaries, and authentic self-expression for their daughters
How to raise girls who can ask for what they want, hear no, disappoint others, and remain connected to themselves
The importance of seeing children as whole individuals rather than extensions or reflections of their parents
How Human Design can support conscious parenting, self-awareness, decision-making, and understanding a child’s unique needs
Using Human Design to navigate emotional sensitivity, sibling conflict, communication patterns, and family dynamics
Teaching children empathy without making them emotionally responsible for everyone around them
Helping sensitive children understand which emotions belong to them and which emotions they may be absorbing from others
Why discomfort, conflict, and frustration can be important parts of raising resilient, self-aware children
The ways perfectionism and good mother conditioning can quietly influence parenting choices
How a mother’s relationship with herself affects the emotional and energetic environment of the entire family
Breaking generational cycles of people-pleasing, caretaking, over-responsibility, and suppressed self-expression
Learning to ask for help, receive support, and release the identity of doing everything alone
Paige’s vision for Self(ish) Media and the intersection of Human Design, cultural psychology, relationships, self-concept, and modern womanhood
How media, family systems, and cultural expectations shape the identities women perform
What it means to become a self-possessed woman and raise daughters who feel free to become fully themselves

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