170 | Attachment, Shame, and Identity: The Sacred Work of Embodiment & Self-Devotion with Yarrow Kae

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What if the work isn’t about becoming someone new—but remembering who you’ve always been beneath the conditioning, attachment, and shame?

In this potent conversation, I sit down with Yarrow Kae—a mentor, spiritual guide, healer, and clinically trained therapist who bridges ancient wisdom with modern psychology—to explore what it really means to embody the truth of who you are. Yarrow’s story is nothing short of extraordinary: at 19, she downloaded enlightenment on the dance floor of a rave, setting her on a decades-long journey of integration, nervous system healing, and self-mastery. Her work now blends somatics, depth psychology, energetics, and spirituality to help others shift at a cellular level and live from their unique magnetic vibration.

Together, we dive deep into the subtle ways our attachment patterns, shame stories, and identity constructs keep us bound—often in ways that feel “productive” or “good.” From perfectionism and people-pleasing to the spiritual bypassing that hides beneath our self-development work, this conversation unveils the unconscious habits that keep us safe but small. Yarrow shares how nervous system regulation and secure attachment create the foundation for true embodiment—and how the willingness to be radically honest with ourselves is the real portal to freedom.

We also explore the difference between knowing and embodying—how integration takes time, why shame often masquerades as anxiety, and what it looks like to move from performance to presence. This is a raw, nuanced dialogue about identity evolution, sovereignty, and the courage to see ourselves fully: the good, the messy, the holy.

If you’ve been craving deeper self-trust, or if you’re ready to stop performing the “healed” version of yourself and start living as the embodied one—this episode will speak straight to your soul. You’ll walk away feeling both challenged and seen, with new language for your own evolution and practical wisdom to anchor your healing in your body.

Meet Yarrow Kae:

Yarrow Kae is a mentor, spiritual guide, healer, and clinically trained therapist devoted to guiding others home to themselves. With a Master’s in counseling and depth psychology, Yarrow bridges the worlds of ancient wisdom and modern science—blending somatic practices with attunement, nervous system healing with energetic mastery, and spirituality with psychology. Her approach empowers transformation at a cellular and DNA level, supporting clients in embodying freedom, expansion, and a fully lit-up way of being.

Her own journey began at 19, when she experienced a download of enlightenment on the dance floor of a rave. Over the next two decades, she explored and embodied a wide spectrum of modalities—becoming a yoga and meditation teacher, reiki healer, nervous system master, and clinically trained therapist. From that integration emerged The Yarrow Kae Way—a unique blend of somatics, psychology, spirituality, and energetics designed to set people free.

Those who enter Yarrow’s world often describe it as the missing piece—the place where the body exhales, the heart softens, and clarity clicks into place. Her vision is one of safety, abundance, joy, and deep connection, guiding others out of fear, scarcity, and contraction, and into their most expansive, authentic selves.

In this episode, Attachment, Shame, and Identity: The Sacred Work of Embodiment & Self-Devotion, Yarrow Kae and I cover:

• The difference between knowing and embodying your healing (and why embodiment is where real transformation happens)

• How attachment wounds subtly shape your nervous system, identity, and relationships

• The link between shame, anxiety, and perfectionism—and how these patterns keep us stuck in control

• Why even “productive” habits like personal growth or cleaning can become addictions rooted in shame or avoidance

• The importance of nervous system safety in receiving love, abundance, and regulation

• How to identify the hidden ways you sacrifice authenticity for attachment

• What it really means to worship at the altar of you—and how self-devotion becomes the ultimate act of sovereignty

• How religious, cultural, and familial conditioning shape our sense of belonging and identity

• The power of radical honesty and self-compassion in releasing control and embodying freedom

• How to alchemize rage, grief, and shame into embodied truth

• What happens when you finally allow yourself to be seen, safe, and free—on your own terms

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Connect with + Learn from Yarrow Kae:

• Instagram: @yarrowkae

• YouTube: Yarrow Kae Academy

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