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092 | Why It’s SO Hard to Ask For Help (and Why You Should!)

  • Emily Reuschel
  • Apr 17, 2024
  • 4 min read

Gather in Growth Podcast episode #001

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I love when the topics for podcast episodes just completely present themselves organically. Oftentimes, the conversations from my mastermind groups and calls, chats in my DMs, or just situations that are happening in my own life (and the world around me) are what I know I need to dive into here. A topic that came up on one of my recent Micromind calls with about 30 other women was why it’s SO hard to ask for help. It was totally one of those ‘lightbulb’ moments that confirmed I was not alone in feeling this way, because this is a struggle affecting many, many women. It’s just not as simple as ‘asking for help’ – there are much deeper layers as to why we don’t feel like we can.


In today’s episode, I want to talk about why it’s SO hard to ask for help, and even more, why you should be doing so. Women (and especially moms) are praised for being helpers, and putting everyone else first, while their needs are constantly pushed on the backburner. I mean…I myself am a thirty-something millennial mom living rural, who also was ingrained with the high-achieving, ‘do it all’ mentality for most of my life. Yeah…you could say it felt pretty unnatural for me to ask for help with my kids, house, etc., at first!


I’ve learned that it’s those micro-experiences from childhood that shape the way we feel about ourselves in adulthood – the messages we absorbed really affected us on a subconscious level. Looking within ourselves and really becoming self aware around what we truly need is VITAL, as well as effectively communicating our wants and needs to those around us. It’s much easier to harbor resentment over assumptions, and we get salty when our husbands aren’t magical mind readers, but..is that really helping anyone in the long run?


What so much of this comes down to is the unrealistic expectations we are holding ourselves to, even though no one actually put them on us in the first place. Friend, you don’t have to be Superwoman, and you don’t have to do everything alone. I know it’s SO hard to ask for help, but at the end of the day, YOU are in charge of building a beautiful life that lights you up. Sometimes that means being vulnerable, and allowing your loved ones to support you where you need it, so you can flourish in this life!


In this episode about why it’s so hard to ask for help (and why you should!), we cover:

  • How your micro experiences from childhood shaped you, and what it looks like to bring them into adulthood

  • Why the communication piece is VITAL in helping you not feel like a burden + finding self-awareness around what you really need

  • Getting to the place of understanding you can’t (nor do you want) to do it ALL, and being totally okay with that

  • Effectively tackling the conversation surrounding household division of labor + letting things go, even if they aren’t done ‘exactly’ the way you would do them

  • Accepting the fact that other people are going to do things differently than you, but it doesn’t have to be a bad thing


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Gather in Growth is more than a podcast—it’s a sanctuary for women coming home to themselves and each other. A sacred space to expand horizons, reignite our power, and live unapologetically as our fullest, most authentic selves.


Hosted by Emily Reuschel, this is a gathering place for the doers, dreamers, and seekers who crave connection, purpose, and meaningful impact. Through raw conversations and soul-deep reflections, we’ll embrace curiosity, step to the edges of our comfort zones, and defy expectations.


Picture this: women gathered around a fire, sharing stories with open hearts—connecting, healing, and evolving together. That’s the spirit of Gather in Growth. This is our space to awaken and embody the lives we’ve been yearning for—lives rooted in alignment, guided by intuition, and built with intention.


If you’re ready to move beyond limits and labels, cultivate deep inner trust, and courageously embrace the magic of who you are, then welcome home. Together, let’s Gather in Growth.


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